Mama-Mia - Proud Mommy to the Cub and Bub

I have no idea what this post is going to talk about or where it's gonna go. There is so much that has been happening that is scaring the hell outta me while making me very very angry. Be it idiotic Sri Ram Sene actually getting cockier by the day with the publicity they are getting to people losing jobs in hundreds every single day.

Puja wrote her usual short post packed with a punch after the Mangalore attacks and though I tried to take it lightly, I just realised that it could be so true. Tomorrow, it could be M and me sitting somewhere and talking or just holding hands and walking in the malls, god forbid even exchange a hug and a peck and we could be thrashed for it. I don't wear any mangalsutra or toe rings to prove I am married. Will carrying my marriage certificate everywhere help considering most of these hooligans cannot even read?

If push comes to shove, will I be able to kick these men in their nuts and tell them to buzz off?! Will it be wise to do that even if I could work up the courage to do it? I mean violence isn't exactly my strength. No wonder, I don't belong to any of these moral police type parties. I quite like Trailblazer's post on this. It hurts like hell. Do read it. IHM too has been making a point and all relevant ones too about this.

To top it all, the BJP government ru(i)nning the state doesn't think parties like SRS need to be banned. Are these not fundamentalist organisations too? Are these people NOT terrorists?? These "internal terrorists" are even more dangerous because they actually get support and protection from some of us. Just like I was shocked to see some of my "educated" friends supporting MNS! So on that principle, will they support Kannada Rakhshna Vedike or some such organisation when they try to throw Maharashtrians out? With such violent means? Here's an interesting post by M on Internal Terrorism

Just today I had lunch with a male friend. We hug when we meet. If there is one of those hooligans walking by just when we hugged, will I branded as a slut, a dhabba on Indian culture and worthy of being molested by 10 men?! My heart beats faster and my blood boils at the thought of it.

Why do we make such a big deal about how grown up men and women want to behave with each other? Or how they want to spend their free time?

M used to travel a lot in one of his previous jobs. There was no Cubby even and I used to really get bored. The only friends I had then were mostly M's pals and some colleagues of mine. More often than not I would call one of em least once a week and tell them to take me out. We would have dinner, perhaps go to a pub or watch a late night movie. M knew about this and he was totally OK with it because we base our relationship on trust. That's the reason I was ok with him going to a bikini bar on his trip to Philipines! That's what grown ups do. They talk and sort out things amongst themselves. They don't need some idiot of a culture vulture to tell them what is right and what is wrong!

Once when a colleague and me decided to go for a movie, M was online (sitting in some godforsaken country) and I told him to book our tickets for the last show. My colleague was shocked. He actually could not believe that a relationship could be so honest and easy. Ofcos this dude perennially worried about how to get a virgin wife and I kept telling him you can never be sure! That made the poor guy even more nervous! :p

So then why do we complicate everything by basing things on gender stereotypes and prejudices of every kind? Why is it still a big deal to get married out of your caste and religion? Why is still awesome if we celebrate each other's festivals? Shouldn't it be the norm by now? Why do we still keep the onus of preserving bharatiya "culture" on a woman's shoulder? Why do we think different rules apply for different people and sexes?! Why can't I dance in a discotheque? Why can't i drink if I want to?! Why can't I wear what I want without being judged either as aunty or a whore?! Why am I an outsider even in my own country just because I cross a state border? Why is it so difficult for us to be polite and speak a language that everyone in the group understands?!

But more than all these things, why are we suddenly SO intolerant of everything thats different from us?! And what makes us think its OK to resort to violence to prove our point?! Why do we all want to be same, rather than enjoy our differences and diversity?! I mean not many countries are as lucky as we are to have so many different cultures in one geographical area! Shouldn't we celebrating it rather than fight it?!

Like I said this was supposed to be rambling. I almost never do these kinda posts because I cannot be logical in my thoughts and rather prefer reading and commenting on other people's blogs. But what the heck, its my blog innit?! :p