The Cub and The Bub! :)

When we found out that I was expecting again, I had send out a sms saying "some people just don't learn from their mistakes!" And yes, of course i WAS kidding! :)


We are so thrilled to have Bubs with us that I cant even begin to express it. Here is the link to what the proud father had to say. Much better than i can ever express! :) And the blog christening of 2B has also been done by him only. Babli... in short Bub. Cub and Bub! Total cuteness overload, isn't it?! :)


Things have been pretty peaceful the second time round. Least till the parents are here! :p We are dreading the 16th Dec night which is the first time we will bother taking care of her and start staying up the nights! We have Meerabai Aunty to help us through it and we are keeping our fingers crossed.


Breastfeeding came a lot more easily this time. For one Bub leant to suckle pretty fast unlike Cub thanks to his hypotonia (which we didnt know at that time). The supply is better. Even now she is on combination of ma ka doodh and Lactogen, but i am able to feed more often and lot more comfortably. Plus i was very clear that I won't guilt trip myself about it like last time. So am at peace with whatever feeding I manage knowing I am doing the best I can! :)


For everyone who wanted to know Cub's reaction to his Bub, well, he is an ADORABLE and ADORING big brother! He has grown up so much all of a sudden, that we just keep marvelling at the transformation and also keep wondering how to make him be the baby that he is. The amount of help he offers at home is nothing short of amazing. Plus he is always more than willing to help with baby duties.

The moment Bub cries, he is at her side telling her "don't cry! your bhaiyya is here!" He repeats whatever we say to her and takes her godi every single time he can and remembers to! :D


He runs to get her nappies and tell us what colour to make her wear first. When his Papa says something even in jest against his sister, he pipes up saying "She is only a baby, Papa!" Lot more mature than i was when I had Cub, i tell ya.


That said there are obvious moments of other extreme as well. The time when he says i don't want her or i don't like her. But these times are few and far in between. He is mostly a very doting brother.


We had told him forever that she will be extremely boring for first few month just indulging in susu potty and sleep and his expectation in that sense were set right. I think it also helped that his aaji ajoba is here and he gets a lot on attention that is positive and encouraging rather than the grouchy, sleepless parents that he will get once the grand parents leave! :p


He is also being loaded with gifts by friends and family who have been visiting us. Be it books, toys including remote control cars or chocolates, everyone has been sweet and considerate to not forget the original baby! :D


There are times, when I have fed Bub and put her down on the bed. Cub is sleeping at one end. M is stretched with his laptop in another corner and i lie down wherever there is place. I look at the picture and feel a contentment I cannot describe.


It DOES feel like a complete family now! :)

Cub playing with one of his gifts for becoming a Big Brother! :)

laying and picking up mats pre and post dinner is Cub duty these days!

The Bub! :)

The Cub and The Bub! :D

from the do bacchon ki ma!

Time to make an official announcement on the blog. Albeit a bit late! Apologies for that!

So l'il Cubby now has a l'il Sister! Yup! 2B is a girl!!!! And M and me proud parents of a daughter!

She came into our lives crying and kicking on 12th! :)

It was a planned c-sec and things went off as smooth as they can. I got admitted the previous night at around 830 and after completing the formalities, all of us went to have ice cream at Corner House. We got back to the hospital at around 11, to be scolded by the anesthetist for doing the disappearing act. He was an old man and i just grinned a silly grin and said i wanted to have dessert! ;)

Got cut up the next day and doc announced "You have a daughter!". Somehow we were so sure that it would be a boy, that I was super zapped! So was M! :) The doc had let me keep my glasses on saying "How the heck will you see the baby?!"

Cub who somehow was always sure it was a girl was being super cute and helpful. he LOVED hospital visits as much for 2B as he did for Bourbon biscuits that were there in the room! ;)

Got discharged on 15th and came back to a gorgeously decorated home. My mom had totally outdone herself! There were flowers, streamers, balloons and the works! Cub had been an enthusiastic helper apparently.

Its been 12 days now and 2B seems to be changing every day. Right now I am trying to excel at my bovine duties and she her kumbhakarna duties. Mom-dad being around is a HUGE support obviously and things seem to be falling into place!

There is a lot more I want to share. Cub's reactions, our experience the second time round and all that jazz. I guess that will just have to wait for another post. I had thought of coming up with something incredibly nice even to make an announcement, but right now my brain is functioning only as much! :)

So that its from this household for now. More later! Hopefully soon enough!

Meanwhile thank you so much for all your prayers and good wishes! We are all indeed blessed!

Cubby aur 2B!

2B's arrival is fairly close now and the excitement is building up. My parents reach Bangalore on 4th night which means Cub gets to a see a little more traditional Diwali and M and me get a break from eating apne haath ka khaana! :p I am still working. Plan to till the 4th after which i might get about a week of R n R before the child decides to pop! :)


Most of the excitement for 2B comes from his/her Big Brother Cubby! He is really looking forward to having 2B with us and is being super cute, understanding and mature about the whole thing. Kala Teeka and Touchwood! :)


We have been trying to set his expectations right by telling him that 2B for most part of first 3 months will be pooping, peeing, having milk and sleeping. So what does the Cub do? He decided cleaning 2Bs potty in that case might be the most exciting thing to do. So he keeps talking about how he will clean 2Bs potty with water. Then as an afterthought he once asked me "But Mamma, will 2B have a bum?!" :D


He also talks about feeding 2B milk with a spoon. And cutest of all he joins both his hands like a curve and says this is a cradle for 2B and he will put her to sleep there! :)


He has always been understanding about no sitting / jumping on my tummy and now is totally OK with not being carried either. Sometimes he is SO sweet about the whole thing that it breaks my heart! :(


He happily started going to school by van when i told him that my tummy is now too big to drop him on the bike.


He ofcos kisses my tummy (yaani 2B) at all random times, strokes it and hugs it and gives the cutest of smiles! :)


Since I am having a C-sec, it was easy to tell him how 2B is going to come out. So he sweetly asked me "But why do they have to cut your tummy?!". I said "nahi toh kahan se bahar aayega 2b?". He retorts "From your mouth. Just do thoo!" :p


All in all he is all set to take on the Bada Bhaiyya mantle and do complete justice to it. I hope the love and excitement stays even after 2B is out.


Love ya my First Born! You are one of the gentlest souls i have known! Here's wishing you abundant love and fun with your 2B! mmmmmmuuuuuuuuuaaah! :)

a day of much laughter and few tears! :)

I have been blogging for maybe l'il over 3 years and in that time have been lucky enough to find friends where the jump from virtual to real world has been so easy and comfortable. We might not meet that often, but I know that these women are just an email or phone call away when I want to share a happy news or need a shoulder cry on.


I was a part of couple of baby showers we did in Bangalore for bangaloremom and later for CoS. It was so much fun to be a part of it and I would be lying if i said I hadnt hoped to get one of my own! :p And thats exactly what I got this Saturday. A baby shower that made me realize that friends become your family and then some more, that we could have so much fun within a span of coupla hours, that someone can take so much effort to make a day special for you. To say I feel blessed would be an understatement! :)


Saturday began like any other day with waking up late, wondering what to do about breakfast and then eventually stepping out to pay Cub's school fees. That done we went for a really late lunch to a Thai place close to home. Yummy lunch done, M insisted that we go buy a new phone for me. We did that and by around 5 we reached back home. Rang the bell, waiting for Amma to open the door. As soon as it was opened, we heard "Surprise!" And I saw our ghar gorgeously decorated and all these awesome women filing outta the room with their kids!


I was totally overwhelmed and all teary eyed, doing mad hugging rounds with one and all! :)


The organising committee spearheaded by Monika (lauuu you for that babes!) and ably supported by rest of the gang... some who could make it to the actual party and few who could not. Mon managed to make it even with her aching knee! :) And ofcourse the awesomest book with messages from whole lotta folks in the blogosphere that made me bawl and grin in turns! :) Guess that was Dee's effort in part! This was apart from goodies 2B, Cub and their very lucky Mommy got.


I would LOVE to write the whole thing in detail, but these other bloggers have done a fabulous job of it and I am just going to link their posts here. let us just blame it on last trimester lethargy, shall we?


Here Usha's post. I met her for the first time and i now know for sure that she could not have called her blog anything but Agelessbonding. Fabulous woman! :)


Here's the post by THE Artsy-crafty Shruti whose posts make me do something remotely creative at least once in a blue moon! :)


And the post by JLT, one of the oldest online dost became asli dost of mine. She painted me that super cute Snoopy tee saying Frens are best. I possibly cannot argue with that!


Thanks DD Mom for yummy pasta (recipe awaited as you well know), Preethi for the awesome games and those melt in mouth muffins we all are begging for! Ofcos, I never knew i could get grossed out by chocolate! :) Poppy, you took out time and came on your birthday. Need i say more?! Art and Starry for picking up really cool gifts for the kids! It was brilliant to see bangaloremom after HER babyshower. It did not seem like we had not met for that long, did it?! :) Anu who made it with both her adorable girls! I finally got to see the l'il one and K is already a very responsible big sistah!


And thank you to everyone who took time to send me those beautiful and personalized messages. That is going to be one of my most priceless treasures ever! :)


Here's some photos! There are a LOT of really nice pictures, but privacy issues meant I cant put most of em up. So pls to make do with these! :)



Hugging spree part 1 of 10 when i entered the ghar and was zapped beyond words! :)




Hugging spree part 2 of 10 when i entered the ghar and was zapped beyond words! :)




This is how pretty and festive the house looked! I still havent bothered pulling down the decorations! LOVE it! :)



The more controlled hug given to Usha when she gave me a gorgeous bunch of flowers!



A few calm moments before the madness began again! :)



That IS chocolate! As hard it is to believe!



And you thought we could never get grossed out by chocolate!



The pictionary. can you guess the rhymes?! :)



The super gorgeous cake! The bottle shaped candle was a brilliant touch! :)



THE Book! :) M and me very obviously zapped and shocked! and excited! :)


And i am wearing the snoopy tee JLT painted. Will put the pictures of that in next post!



Showing off my gifts! :)

of food for thought? Nopes! For Toys and Chips! :)

M has been traveling a little and that leaves Cub and me to fend for ourselves over weekends. Since I cannot drive and am still using my two wheeler, our radius for going out cannot be too far. WE did trips for story telling sessions at Crossword close by, vegetable shopping at grocery division in a mall, eating at a food court etc.


Now generally M and me don't go to malls unless there is some shopping that needs to be done. It really is not our idea of fun outing. How can it be when it takes forever to find parking and space to move without getting pushed around? Inspite of our not so often visits, Cub seems to enjoy the malls! He likes the lights, the noise and mainly the escalators!


The Central close to home has a McDonalds. Cub has been to a McD's maybe a total of 4 times, but if you hear him talk about it, one would think we take him there everyday! :p This weekend, i made the mistake of attempting to go on a Saturday evening. It took us close to 40mins to teach on a TWO wheeler! Phew! Then McD's hardly had any space. I actually made Cub sit by himself till i got us some food, telling him not to move and to scream if he needed me. Thankfully, he stayed put and i got our order quick enough.


When i came back with food, the first question Cub asked me was "Toy kidhar hai?!" HUH! I would have happily got him the errrr Happy meal if the toy had semblance of being even remotely nice or worthy of 5mins of play. So i was trying to explain to him how new toys come along as merchandise for movies etc. Duh!


Anyway, he did not insist, (guess the long winding explanation turned him off!;) had his burger and fries (minus the bun) and then we went up to the food court so that I could eat something that would fill my tummy. And our 2hours were spent just in eating at two places. Of course there was a potty session thrown in which meant i had to gulp down my food at super sonic speed. When does it stop? And we are gonna do it all over gain! Gah! ;)


By the end of it all i remember is a lot of crowd and sweat! and messy loo. Bah!


Sunday morning didnt start off too well. We fought over something silly. Then made up. When asked where he wants to go, the child said "I want to go to Ranga Shankara (the gorgeous theater modeled over Prithvi in Bombay) to eat that egg sandwich!". I was quite impressed. It's only a little later that it struck me that the child's attraction for the humble egg-mayo sandwich stems from the fact it is served with even humbler potato chips or wafers as we call them! :) Now, we rarely buy chips etc as a part of our regular grocery. Cub gets them only when we have guests or we are traveling. Poor kid! :p


But we did go there finally and what fun it was. They have a beautiful l'il cafe with wooden benches, granite top tables on terracotta bricks, paper lanterns, fresh flowers in metals tins that milkman carries and an over all nice and open feeling. The lobby for the theater is right there with its art work, posters for plays and masks. There is a small space outside completely covered by trees that has small stone stools and log benches, strewn with sand and pebbles.


So we ate peacefully... Cub his egg sandwich (running around and coming back for bites and trying to cheat by having two chips instead of one after every sandwich bite!;) and me a yummy kheema pav! :) I was wearing my "baby Under Construction" tee (last month folks!) and coupla women there told me how cute it was. One of the women then offered us a yummy walnut and banana cake as dessert and my day was made. Cute tee and cute Cub did it for us! hehe!


As we were leaving it started to drizzle and we decided to spend some time in tree covered area. Cub had fun jumping off the stone stools / slabs, throwing pebbles and practicing writing his alphabets on sand with twigs that were strewn all over the ground. He carried one pebble back as souvenir and was quite reluctant to go back home.


Cub thankfully said thank you to folks, but refused to tell his name to make up for it! Bah!


What a peaceful meal this was compared to the madness at the mall! :)


In the evening we went to the park close to home. past few weekends we have been going there regularly because it has more of jungle gym, bars to hang on kinda stuff than the colony play area. The doc reccos them for Cub's hypotonia as well and its anyway a really nice park.


Now Cub by nature is someone who would not try anything new if you don't push him a little. So we did to make him climb the jungle gym shaped like B. He refused and cried, wailed and stomped about. Then we started a game. he now loves saying what words start with every alphabet! So we picked a letter and said a new word for every step he took. He was now distracted enough to go without crying and now does it super easily. It was welcome change to see another father pointing to Cub and showing his daughter"See thats how it is done!", since usually we are the parents pointing to some other kid! :)


And the girl was behaving exactly the way Cub was just a few weeks back! :)


He played around on everything. It was super nice to see him get more confident and comfortable with physical activities. We took a short walk and went home. Dinner was had with a staple of stories and sleep after 10mins of pre bedtime TV.


Give me more Sundays like these i say! :)


Here's some old memories at Ranga Shankara with Cub's beloved Daadu on his last trip here to see our new ghar...



The uncle who man's the counter with a smile! :)



The Three Generations in single frame for pretty much the last time :(



One with his DiL! :)


and the light of his life... the Cub! :)

because we dont like sour grapes...

Cubby laughing at "Tolly! The Grapes!" as i try to feed him some warm milks after getting wet in the rains at Horsley hills! :)



or not so happy endings!


I wrote about Cub's favourite books coupla posts ago. The reason we also end up buying lots of books apart from an obvious love for them is his parents' complete inability to use imagination and create new stories. M is marginally better, but couldn't bother too much. Cub also is a slave of routine and has his own favs and would not be talked into listening to something new till you beg him to.


Now my Dad can make up stories about everything under the sun! So for a few days after he left Cub made random demands about stories about an omelet or a shoe or whatever else that came to his mind! He soon realized that his parents are not as gifted as his Ajoba and settled for ghisa-pita stories that we churned out for him.


That said he is a story freak and blackmails us into telling him one or more to get anything and everything done from him. So if he is to eat his food, we need to tell him story. Ditto if we are to get his inhalation done. Needless to say the activity undertaken lasts for as long as the story does and we need extend / modify the standard stories to suit the expected duration of the said activity.


One of his favourite modified stories is the Fox and the Grapes. He was quite disappointed with the fox walking away saying "the grapes are sour" when he could not reach them after a lot of effort. He said Nahhii much in filmi fashion and I had to change it quickly so that we indeed reached a happy ending, moral be damned! :p


So in our version the Fox firstly does a happy dance when he finds an entire garden of grapes. It has green, red and black varieties. He tries jumping and reaching the said grapes with no luck. But fox being a clever animal, goes home and gets a stool. He still cannot reach the grapes. So he realizes he needs something taller and rushes home to get a ladder and still falls a wee bit short. Now he is very disappointed and worried. Suddenly he has an idea!


He rushes from the garden and huffing and puffing reaches his friend's house. Tolly - the giraffe! (Name flicked from Toot). He is breathless and says "Tolly! Tolly! The Grapes!" Tolly a l'il confused says "I am NOT Tolly the grapes. I am Tolly the Giraffe!". (This part brings a whole lot of chuckles from the child). The same is repeated when the Fox says "Tolly! The garden!"


Soon enough the fox is able to catch his breath and manages to tell Tolly how he has found a garden full of grapes, how he cannot reach the grapes and if he will help him pluck them. Tolly readily agrees. Fox is now thrilled and happily point to grapes he wants which Tolly obligingly plucks and gives him.


When he has had enough he tells Tolly also try some. Tolly makes a face and says "main grapes vapes nahi khaaata. I eat only leaves and grass!" The fox tells him there is no harm in trying it once and he can always refuse next time if he does not like them. Tolly agrees and takes a few and quite likes them.


They both then take some for their families also and happily run home.


story khatam! :D


Then there is the Hungry Crow and the Thirsty Crow, in both of which the crow goes to least 10 homes including our own, friends' and relatives' asking for either chapati or water (depending on whether he is the bhooka or pyaasa Kauaa). If he is asking for Chapati, all the folks give him something to drink. The kauaa then slaps his forehead with his wing and says "Arre! I am the hungry crow, not the thirsty crow! I want something to eat!" Of course it goes vice versa when it comes to the Thirsty Crow and he gets offered something to eat in all the homes! :p


I heard M extend the Monkey and the Crocodile story yesterday and I am sure there are more modifications in store for us!


:)

till i write a post of my own...

We lost my pa in law, fondly known as just Papa on 1st Sep 2010. He had been a heart patient and in and out of hospitals or past few months.


A lot of you who are regular on the blog must have read fairly consistent comments on all my blog posts. I am still to be able to write a post in as much detail as I would like to. One that lies in my draft folder since 15th Apr. A post about Cub and his Daadu which i wanted to put up as a gift for papa's birthday on 19th April. Now i am kicking myself for not having finished it then and there. But such is life... and death.


So I am just linking M's post right now. Simple, short and poignant.


I have not mourned his death. He lived his life too fully and happily for that. If it were for me, I would throw a party to celebrate his life with lots of meat, alcohol and laughter. Three things he absolutely loved! :)


Rest in peace Papa. You were a good soul and I am glad our paths crossed. Thank you for all the good times and unconditional love. You are missed.

of bookies and booker prizes

with a storm being raised thanks to the match-fixing by Pakistani cricket team, the word bookie has again graced the front pages of our newspapers with allegations and denial and counter allegations of course.


But since my blog is all about fluff and the happy Cubby stuff, I am just using these terms to talk about the Books Cub now loves. I still cannot say whether Cub is an avid book lover or no. You can rarely see him poring over his books by himself. But he does love being read to and his appetite for stories is unending and our repertoire far too less to satisfy those hunger pangs. Yet, we read new books and stories and the loved one are oft repeated and reread. So, i thought I should least make some not of the books he likes at this point of time. We are of course hoping that he will eventually become a bookworm!


Cub's love story with books and errr.. stories started with Karadi tales gifted by very cool Vee Taiji (who incidentally believes that the term Taiji itself makes her uncool but we disagree!). Now they are pretty much a staple diet in our life.


I think the CDs eventually become redundant but it is indeed cute to see Cub repeat after Karadi the bear and mouthing lines like "he had a fiery red mane and a deep thunderous roar!" We use these CDs to baby sit him while we go have a bath or something and he quite enjoys them.


Among all the Karadi tales, he loves The Foolish Lion which has Buddhu raj falling into well trying to fight his own reflection and Little Vinayak. I personally LOVE the latter. Its an adorable tale of l'il Vinayak who as his name suggests a small elephant but with a looooong trunk that he keeps tripping and falling over. It tell us how he finally learns to walk without falling with a song that Cub and me sing often. I totally recco this book to one and all with kids young enough to enjoy the elephant's trials at trying to make his trunk short!


Oh and I cannot forget how much he loves the story of Bakasur or rather Bheem as Cub calls it. Art gifted Bakasur and Bhasmasur books to Cub for his birthday and he fell in love with Bakasur story right away. He finds it funny how Bheem is always hungry! He also enjoys The Foolish Crow and we have to sing Saa sing the sunflowers ever so often!


We recently discovered joys of Dr.Seuss as well. The ABC book is often read and laughed over. I still am not sure if Cub laughs because I do or he genuinely gets it. But he enjoys repeating lazy lion licks a lollipop in an endless loop. I love to hear him say Yellow yawning yak. Young Yolanad Yorgensen is yelling on it's back! It's just too cool, i tell ya! :D


We also enjoy One Fish, two Fish, Blue Fish, Red Fish again by Dr.Seuss. The hilarious rhymes are always a great pick me up!


Same and different by Tulika which was gifted by Starry is also something Cub totally enjoys doing. I never thought he could spot the differences. What also amazes me is that how he looks it at it in the most simplistic fashion and finds the correct pair while I look at the more complicated parameters. Of course he still refuses to even try the ones which are not that obvious but I guess he is quite young!


Recently picked up Tulika's "Where is Gola's home?" in which Gola the yak wants a home for himself and how his friend Muri the eagle takes him to different habitats. Starting from sea to rivers, from desert to forest and how he finally find home in the snowy Himlayas. Enjoyable! :)


I also picked Eric Carle's bilingual of The Mixed-up Chameleon at a recent trip to Crossword. I am officially in love with it in couple of readings. So is Cub. We loved the vibrant artwork and the pictorial progression of how the Chameleon wants a l'il bit of something from every animal and after getting it ends up being so mixed up that he can't even hunt for his food. It's then that he realizes he would rather be the Chameleon he is instead of a mish-mash of random animals. I also read the book to Cub in Hindi as well and realised that so many words are never used in our day to day spoken Hindi. So Cub amused me by pointing to horse and monkey on some toy of his and telling me "Yeh jaanvar hai!" - something he learned from the Hindi version of the story. And this is after 2 reads.


We trip on Pratham Books as well. For one the stories are so sweet, simple and short and the art work so gorgeous that Cub gets them right away. I think they are the most value for money books ever possible. Just LOVE them. Tommy and the fly, The Onion's shawl, Annual haircut day, Too many Bananas are just a few that are read often.


He likes looking at his picture books as well. The simple ones that have Birds and Animals, alphabets, numbers etc. Since he now recognizes the alphabet pretty much completely (we have never taught him at home) he now tries to recognize them everywhere he sees a bunch of capital letters put together. He still doesn't understand the concept of how words get built, but likes the whole recognition business a lot.


So that's that from our Library as of now. Am sure there is stuff I have missed out on, but something is better than nothing. And i really need to keep the blog alive! I have been terribly busy at work leaving me with no time to even breathe on a working day.


As per 2B goes, the pregnancy is as smooth as ever - Touchwood! I am I think around 28 weeks through and HUGE! I hardly have any pictures and all that jazz this time round and with Cub to keep our hands full, I wouldn't bother being fussy even if I wanted to frankly! I can feel the movements pretty consistently now and I must say that 2B seems much more active than Cub was in-utero.


Poor 2B has not had any updates on this blog as yet. But don't you worry my love. You are being eagerly waited for. Especially by your big brother. Every time he sees a small baby he says "2B bhi aisa hi hoga naah? Chhotaasa?!".


The other day I got only your Bhaiyaa's breakfast plate outside and guess what he asked me? He questioned me saying "Where is 2B's naashta?!" The concept of his mother eating for herself doesn't exist any more.


He is looking forward to teaching you so many things. Anything he does he will follow it up "Does 2B know how to do this?" and when i say No, he says he will teach you. You are one lucky kid sweets! :)


And since 2B has been till date royally ignored in this space and we have been tripping over Ogden Nash, here is his hilarious take on First Child, Second Child.


Be it a girl, or one of the boys,
It is scarlet all over its avoirdupois,
It is red, it is boiled; could the obstetrician
Have possibly been a lobstertrician?
His degrees and credentials were hunky-dory,
But how's for an infantile inventory?
Here's the prodigy, here's the miracle!
Whether its head is oval or spherical,
You rejoice to find it has only one,
Having dreaded a two-headed daughter or son;
Here's the phenomenon all complete,
It's got two hands, it's got two feet,
Only natural, but pleasing, because
For months you have dreamed of flippers or claws.
Furthermore, it is fully equipped:
Fingers and toes with nails are tipped;
It's even got eyes, and a mouth clear cut;
When the mouth comes open the eyes go shut,
When the eyes go shut, the breath is loosed
And the presence of lungs can be deduced.
Let the rockets flash and the cannon thunder,
This child is a marvel, a matchless wonder.
A staggering child, a child astounding,
Dazzling, diaperless, dumbfounding,
Stupendous, miraculous, unsurpassed,
A child to stagger and flabbergast,
Bright as a button, sharp as a thorn,
And the only perfect one ever born.


SECOND

Arrived this evening at half-past nine.
Everybody is doing fine.
Is it a boy, or quite the reverse?
You can call in the morning and ask the nurse.

when do toys rest and BIDWF!

You know your home sees equal division of labour especially in a kitchen when following conversation ensues with your 3yo;

M who walks in after me from work sees Cub and me chilling (its cold war actually after another scene of terrible behaviour by Cub) in the living room. There is cooker on the gas.


M - cooker mein kya hai? (Whats cooking in the errr.. cooker?!)

Me - Dal

M - sirf dal? Subzi nahi hai? (only Dal? no subzi)

Cub - Nahi Papa, mummy ko subzi banana nahi aata. Woh sirf dal banati hai. Subzi toh aap banaoge.
(No papa, mummy doesn't KNOW how to make subzi. She makes only dal. YOU will make the subzi)

M and me were first very very stunned and then rolling on the floor laughing. It is so true. Everyday (barring exceptions of course) M makes the subzi and me the dal! :)


And if you think kids are salve drivers who don't care enough for their toys just because they treat parents badly? Have a look.

When the Cub goes to sleep...

He sometimes ensures that all his trains and planes and robots go to sleep too!

On a completely unrelated note, I am absolutely NOT a poetry person. I just don't understand most of it. But i recently purchased a collection of Ogden Nash called Candy is Dandy and am loving it! I remembered him being a funny guy with some poem of his studied at school eons ago. He isn't just brilliantly witty and sarcastic, but has such lucid observations which hold true even today! I keep passing on the book to M when i want him to read something especially nice, but then he wants to read next three pages and book comes back to me only after 10mins of constant nagging. :D

Here's some of his lines. I couldn't agree more. This is pretty much my relationship with God considering i rarely go to places of worship and mostly have one on one's at my convenience and obviously expect HIM/ HER to understand! :)


I didn't go to church today,
I trust the Lord to understand.
The surf was swirling blue and white,
The children swirling on the sand.
He knows, He knows how brief my stay,
How brief this spell of summer weather,
He knows when I am said and done
We'll have plenty of time together


What is your relationship with the one Up above? You enjoy the rituals that go hand in hand in with religion? Or stay away from them? Or are pretty much neutral and will participate if you have to and stay away when you can?! Or maybe not believe at all?! :)

of Food and sacrifice!

These two words usually don't go together in my dictionary. I mean I won't sacrifice my food for anything in this world. I might sacrifice something for good food though... So my first statement does not hold true in that case! ;)


Anyway, my parents and uncles had come over for just 2 days for Cub's birthday (these are the moments you feel totally blessed) and they came loaded with gifts for Cub and food for us. They know us so well! ;) So Cub's favourite Ujoba (also known as Mango-waala aadmi because he sends us hapoos peti every year) got us some salted pistachios. I LOVE salted pista and cashew. Only trouble is no one can eat one and in this case it was impossible to keep track unless you saw the pile of shells in front of you. Then one also remembers making Pista shell flowers for some school year's Diwali homework. (do kids still get that? we would always end up doing it on the last two days of the vacations).


So I decided very enthusiastically that I will eat as many pistachios it would take to make these phools with Cub.


So it was all sacrifice folks! For my child's sake! ;)


And we actually did end up making some and had fun while at it. Cubby painted the shells with me holding them between my fingers. So obviously i had more paint on my fingers than shells had! :D He also helped stick em on the base (which is shoebox flaps) and scribbled the background design. We used bacha hua crepe paper (streamers) from Cub's birthday party to make the handle.


The Plan is to send the final creations to folks as thank you from Cub for making his birthday special!


Here's some photos! :)

Sticking on the petals. Pity we don't have photos when he was painting the shells!

Even when hard at work, there is always time to pose!

Fake smile - part 1. With final creation!

Fake smile - 2. Different pose, same smile. He is MY son! ;)

Trying if it looks nice hung up on our bathroom wall!

The photu without models. Scribbling all over the base done by Cub! :)

Shruti, some day we might be good and enthu enough to participate in Artsy-Crafty! :)

:) THREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

From incoherent words to loooong sentences

From parents saying No to parents getting used to hearing just NOs

From careful walking to running with the wind

From toothy smiles to full blown laughter

From occasional swaying to music to what can almost pass off as dance

From listening to stories to making up your own

From being a fussy eater to being a fussy eater

From liking chocolates to LOVING them

From refusing ice cream to wanting to go to Naturals for your fix

From sleeping in the movie theatre to demanding your share of popcorn and cola

From being offered choices to making those choices

From waiting patiently for us to change you to bringing your night suit including diaper on your own

From getting hugs to giving them

From accepting kisses to avoiding them

From being fed all the meals to trying to eat most of them on your own

From drinking milk with glass to spoon to glass again depending on your mood

From being able to sing your alphabet to being able to recognize half of them

From needing the two of us to drop you to school on bike to standing confidently on your own and even pulling the choke to help my bike start

From being absolutely nuts about Hemmets to have your own Helmet that you wear when we drop you to school

From the Terrible Twos to the Terrifying Threes!!

This year has been full of new discoveries… for all of us! It has been amazing to see you soak everything up like a sponge… good and bad and we keep struggling to find the balance. You mostly delight us with your observations and ability to know the right answers!

You are officially a junkie loving your chips and chocolates, but you get them only when we have guests over or when we are traveling or something.

You have become extremely stubborn often driving me complete and total frustration. I know a lot has to do with the fact that my scolding makes you defy me even more, but I am hoping in this coming year we will be able to find a middle ground.

We had one birthday party for you this Saturday and it was a lot of fun! For us. I hope you enjoyed too. Considering we saw / heard from you ONLY during cake cutting I am guessing you managed to keep yourself busy and had fun! The cake was absolutely gorgeous and the presence of all our friends made it very special. Next year perhaps you will have friends of your own or something and we will have a small do at home.

Happy Birthday Love! You are one of the most amazing kids around! Have a great year ahead and may those shining eyes and the brilliant smile keep enthralling us! :)

Love ya lots and pots! :)

Here are some snapshots of the evening! :)

Accepting his gifts minus the Thank Yous!

Kids getting enthralled by bubbles thoughtfully brought by Richa aunty! :)

Draw the bindi! Much like pin the donkey's tail. Thanks Ramya for the idea! :)

The Birthday Cake! Kingfisher aeopane with all his favourite movie characters grabbing the window seat! :)

The cake cutting and all that jazz! :) Cub had dipped his fingers into it before we could get to cutting it! :p

One for the camera! :)

Kids had a gala time drawing / scribbling on chart papers put up on the walls!

The sole streamer flying along with the fan! :)

Cub - happy to have the whole place for himself!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ONCE AGAIN!!!!!

Much love, hugs, kisses and prayers!

God bless you sweetheart! :)


ps: Most of this stuff was a part of Cub's birthday invite. I just added some more Froms! ;)

a BIDWF and a tag!

just a quick BIDWF moment with the junior jain! :)


Cub turns 3 next month and this time we plan to have a big pahty with everyone we know and care about being there. Past two years we have had quieter affairs and haven't done anything in Bangalore, ever!


So, yesterday on our car ride to a restaurant I asked him "Cub, what cake do you want? An aeroplane? or nemo? Mowgli? Baloo? Sully?" and all the other animated characters he likes. He listens to me for sometime and then says "Nahi! Mujhe sirf chocolate cake chahiye!"


Both M and me burst out laughing and told him that cake will be chocolate only with whatever picture he wants on it! :)


and tonight he asked his father when he was changing him into night suit"I am looking cute, naah?!" HUH?!


Best bud Momo's ma tagged me to talk about My Sins against the gender stereotype.


For the longest time I wanted to be a guy to get all the freedom guys do. I used to be a pucca tomboy and couldn't imagine a different life! But soon I knew i could be the girl i was and yet do what i wanted! Total win-win situation, eh?! :)


I am not into dressing up / make up. Yes, i like my lipstick, but thats it. I dont even know how to apply nail polish on my own! gah!


I have been riding a two wheeler since I was 16 and still LOVE it! Thanks to my Dad who refused to mollycoddle me, I even have a fair bit experience in pushing my two wheeler to the closest service station and getting it repaired! Ofcourse, I am yet to learn to drive and hope to some day!


Maybe because books available at home were my Dad's taste, i have not read a single mills and boons or danielle steele, but devoured the Robin Cooks, John Grishams, Dick Francis Arthur hailey and gang!


I started traveling on my own to Pune by train by the time I was 10 and was traveling by overnight buses to Kolhapur by 12 years.


I wore shorts in my teens much to chagrin of most of our neighbours! I still wear em and dont really care about the neighbours anymore! ;)


I worked super late hours and traveled by myself in trains and cabs.


In both my pregnancies, i managed / am managing my doc visits etc on my own without needing M to accompany me.


I got a tattoo done and did not scream in pain or shed a single tear! :p


I could not cook to save my life till I got married and now both us can churn out a decent meal! :)


I could not be the shy bride even if I wanted to and grinned throughout the ceremonies and later!


i LOVE Tarantino and Guy Ritchie movies including Kill Bill. Ofcos the change in taste happened post shaadi, but am glad for it. So now I can watch mush and dhishum dhishum with equal ease.


I have gotten off my bike to move huge stone in the middle of the road that was causing traffic jam while all men waited for god knows what and giggled when I did it. gah!


I have gone out with all guy gang of friends at 3am for cutting chai and bhurji pav and really miss those days.


and though we never had offcial proposal between us, it was me who initiated "lets be more than friends" with M and hounded him till he married me! I still cry buckets everytime i watch Friends episode where Monica proposes to Chandler. :)


When it comes to living up to the gender norms, I still havent tried learning the whole finance bit and i cry a lot! For good and bad stuff! :D Yet, right now I am comfortable in my skin and enjoying being me!


I think whole world has been tagged with this, so if there is someone who hasn't done it as yet, feel free! :)

Marathi rhymes anyone?! :)

I have never participated in Tulika's blogathon, rather I am still to introduce Cub to the world of Tulika books, though I have been regularly admiring them, reading the reviews and at times buying a few too!


Now that Cub is almost 3 and enjoying being read to much more (and listening to stories without books as well), I hope he will have as much fun with Tulika books!


This is my entry for Tulika Blogathon 4.


I frankly don't remember too many and the ones I seem to remember, I don't think I can translate them. Still picking up the simplest ones!


This one is sang just as a game to tickle to the baby and make him/her laugh.


Ithe Ithe bais re mora (this is sang with one finger dancing on baby's palm)
Baal Deto Chaara(Fold two of baby's l'il fingers)
Chaara Khaa (Fold another two of baby's l'il fingers)
Paani Pee (Fold the last of baby's l'il fingers)
Aani bhoor udun jaa (this is said with fingers running across the length of baby's hand and ends with tickling him/her just under the neck or armpit)

Translation

O peacock, come and sit here
The baby is giving you something to eat
Eat the food
Have some water
and flllyyyy away!


The eternal favourite rain song thats been sang I think forever!


Ye re Ye re pausa
Tula deto paisa
paisa jhaala khota
paus aala motthha!


Ye ga ye ga Sari (sar pronounced like Sir) and it mean a quick but heavy shower of rain)
Majhe madke bhari
Sarr aali dhaaun (Sarr pronounced as Sir and it means a quick but heavy shower of rain)
Madke gele vahoon


Translation


Come Come O rain
I will give you a paisa
The paisa turned out to be fake
Then there was big (heavy) rainfall!


Come come, o rain shower
Fill up my earthen pot
The rain came down in a rush
My pot floated away with it


This one is to teach the kids their relations. Well sort of! :)


Khabdak Khabdak Ghodoaba
Ghodya var basle laadoba
Laadobache laad kartay kon?
Aaji ajoba, maavshya don Translation


Rock Rock, rocking horse
Our l'il darling is riding the horse (laadoba is like laadla/li)
Who is pampering our l'il darling?
Grandma, grandpa and two aunts


You can easily easily replace all these people kaka, kaku, mama and mami and any other relatives one has! :)


This one i didnt remember completely so called Google baba for rescue. pasting the image and will type the translation. This is to teach the baby body parts.

Translation


Little finger
Middle finger like a flower
Palm
Wrist - Elbow
Shoulder - neck - Chin
Mouth (bhataacha (rice) bolka - bolka typically is colloquial for mouth without teeth!)
Pipe to smell (nose)
Kaajal holders (eyes)
God's back
On God's back you hear the chirping of so many birds (this i am absolutely NOT sure of!)


And this last one, I didn't listen to as a kid. Recently came across it and thought it was damn cute!

ek hota zural
chalat hota saral
bus madhe chadhla
tickit nahi kadhla
seat khali lapla
saral ghar ghathla

Translation

Once there was a cockroach
Who was walking real straight
got on to a bus
and didnt buy a ticket
it hid under the seat
and reached straight home!


Phew! This translation business is really tough especially when so much has to do with cultural ethos of that particular time and place. I know I have done a shoddy job by literally translating, but hey this is the best I could do! Not everyone can do an awesome job like Starry and PV!

But this was good fun! Also I really need to check with my mom about what those other few rhymes mean. I know in spirit, but to translate it i need more help! :p

The Cousin Capers!

I am sure for most of us vacations meant long summer days spent with our cousins. Either they coming over to our place or we going over to theirs and getting into all sorts of mischief and fun stuff. I know how much I used to look forward to going to my sisters' home in Kolhapur. Vacations there meant awesome food cooked by mavshi, endless games of cards and board games like Monopoly, learning to cycle, watching movies, listening to ghost stories at night and generally having a blast doing anything or absolutely nothing! :)

Now Cub stays really far from his cousins. His parents don't get the kind of long leaves that allow for real summer vacations and that means his chance to spend time with them comes once in a while and not for more than day or two. But we are greedy with whatever we can get and look forward to these times. We got a small window when we went to Delhi in December last year and an even smaller one just this weekend which went by when the same cousins along with the local first cuz came to stay over with us for a night! We actually abducted them straight from the wedding we were all attending. Watching these kids bond was so much fun! :)

For Mrigs, Cub's first cousin, this was the absolute first time he was spending the night without his parents. Till we were awake and playing (well past midnight mind you), he was alright. But then he wanted to go home and wanted his Mamma. Good thing about this kid is that he listens to reason. M managed to calm him down, showed him Jungle book on TV and played with him till he slept! I think for a first timer he was an absolute rock star!! I hope we can do it more often and he will soon be absolutely comfy! :)

A whole lot of credit for the whole time going smooth goes to M who is SO AWESOME with kids. Me, i just stepped back and played the photographer! So let me just share some of these special memories! :)

All dressed up for Chikki Bua's wedding!

After looking at very dapper Vedu, I so wished I could have dressed Cub also in nice ethnic wear! :)

Outta the nice wedding clothes and into comfy nightsuits! :) Waving on request!

Antz the big sistah DOES mother ALL of em like you see in this photo! Absolute sweetheart! :)

The sharif bacchas doing Jigsaw puzzles at like 1am or something! Mrigs who is not yet 4 does 100 piece puzzles! Whow!

M feeding mrigs milk. Or trying to.

This was the first time Mrigs had plain milk with sugar since his ma gives him flavouyred milk. Only thing he had to say when initially offered sugarless milk was "Milk tastes weird in your house!" And next morning when M was pushing Cub to finish his milk, Mrigs came to his rescue saying "Why are you forcing him if he doesn't want to?! Let him be!" Needless to say M has been verry zapped! hehe!

I have no idea why i bothered putting 5 more gaddas! Really!!

The Morning After! :D I was getting calls from worried parents.

Morning camel rides, anyone?! :)

Once they began, there was no stopping em, was there?!

Till cycle came to M's rescue. (thats our terrace btw)

They sweetly took turns ofcos! :)

and then moved to my trusty Dio! :) No we didnt travel like this! ;)

They ate at McDonalds and then danced on the stage at Central! The song was favourite All Izz Well! :)

Thank you Antz, Vedu and Mrigs for such lovely memories! And to their brave parents too! Let's do this more often, shall we?! :)